You are not failing your kids. This is just life. Actually, it will make them stronger adults.
Call/contact "Military One Source". They offer many services to servicemembers & families.
They could also get you some counseling to help you deal with the issues you are dealing with regarding your son. They help 'family members' with issues around the house,etc-but I'm not sure if thats just for spouses & kids or if that expands to parents. But, it don't hurt to ask them.
The number is:(800) 342-9647 (its my understanding that you contact them 24 hours, not sure).
in response to ekikaseven...I would never burden him like that he has no idea things are so hard for us and thank you for mentioning suicide I have nightmares about losing him I can hear him say MOM and I can't reach him. I have always put my children first. Protected them, loved them. Until I lost my job I did it without any help like child support or govt asst. The fact that now I am failing them now tears me apart.
Its possible that your son may be suffering from a mental issue from the war such as PTSD, depression or even a TBI.
People see things in war & don't feel like talking. Or, he may even have gotten hurt physically as well as mentally & don't feel like dealing with people at all. This is the case with alot of servicemembers that have been in war.
Give him time to heal. That may take a long time, but give him time.
If he does talk to you, do not 'burden' him with financial issues & problems in life. Most likely, he is dealing with enough on his plate. Many servicemembers have committed suicide since coming home. So, we do not want to add to his already many issues.
I hope things work out for you.
I will pray that you hear from him soon.
I miss my son. He is home from Iraq now after two tours, but I don't know where he is living. He will not answer my calls and i dont know why. on top of this my twins are getting into fights because we are being evicted and i still am unemployed. my heart is breaking and the county said it was not cost effective to help my family. lost hope cant stop crying no family to ask for help.
in response to sandy24...I made the link clickable for you in your blog for pet food stuff and easy to get too. take it easy and love you . I didn't know Dawn was stuck in the red tape too..
have a great day and see you later gator..
I left it in your blog spot on your site too so it is clickable there. as I couldn't get the link to go right. Anyway I was tired and went lay down at 6Pm and woke up. I want a new life and new body , oh just go back in time and do things different have a good day at PT take care hugs and love...u
Hello sandy24 I was reading both your and Dawn's post back and forth to each other and here you might want to see if you can get help with dog food here
in response to sandy24...Hi and thanks for the info, i applied last April thru Binder and Binder did all dr appnts paper work filled out, just had newyork state doc exam sep 2, i just got another letter for questioneer which i did not recieve sent that back, along with copy for lawyer i think it mentioned another docs exam!!! but im ready if i have to, i asked my lawyer if she could write a hardship a letter and try and push this up im hurting bad!!! no income, im also under Pychiatric treament have been, so they have that letter also awhile now, im suffer from extreme depression, i do have medication, im ok like everyone else i have my ups and downs all this came from this "situation" and loosing "unemployment' benefits in March!!! but i do what it takes, and thanks have to find out who is my local "federal senator" incase i need to.....i have medicade...Its really great u have a good relationship with st vincents depaul society and that their food is fresh even if its once a month thats something, great for paper goods and pet food, cleaning supplies, and yr soooo right the $99 cent store, couldnt live with-out it!!!...yes its all a game with these politians, but ive never done this, should try, if i do will let u know, ur seem very upbeat and positive, and thats the best way to be!!! keep smiling....dEE
in response to sandy24...The only other thing i can suggest, are GRANTS!!! i my-self have never applied, but people that know how to apply to grants, im thinking there must be places were people can apply for help!!! but when u have a "a house" its hard getting any kind of help, because its property, yr in a tough spot....hang in there maybe some else here at aidepage can help, or would know where u can turn to!!!.......dEE
in response to sandy24...Sorry yr going thru all this, but sadly to say yr not alone, i havent had an income in 10 months i was one of the original 99'ers that lost their unemployment benefits, i manage on a daily basis, but because i live in apt i have foostamps and can manage (barely) on public assistence , my family help when they can so i consider my-self fortunate, i have medical problems, i applied to Disability but that takes forever!!! so i know how u feel in that reguard!!! i wish i had the answers for u and the help u need, i know they go by gross income and thats terrible, so many people out there barely managing and have to turn to food pantries, its sooo sad!!! but i know u wont get rich or get the benefits u desperately need!!! and for everything ITS A BIG DEAL!!! THE ONLY THING I CAN SUGGEST FOR FOOD IS GO TO THE "PANTRIES" I WISH I HAD THE ANSWERS FOR U!!! ALL WE CAN DO IS HANG IN THERE!!! AND PRAY IT GETS BETTER!!! .....dEE
I cant stress this enough!!! if yr out of work and havent applied u need to apply to UNEMPLOYMENT ASAP!!! if u cant for what ever reasons, then u need to go and apply to "public assistence" youll get emergency foodstamps, medical, and in most cases help with rent, if not section 8 housing, u might also get cash assistence, and if u have ANY OVERDUE BILLS BRING THEM!!! DISCONNECTION NOTICES!!! but u have to go in person apply, and yes fill out forms and there is a wait in the office but everyone goes thru this,...for everything else such as clothing and appliances that are slightly used, go to salvation army and thrift stores, also check out free listings on craigslist and backpage in yr area.....Good Luck!!!
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My name is Megan and I am 22 years old, I am having issues right now because Neither me nor my husband has been working, I am having a hard time finding a job and my husband has been sick he recently went back to work, While he was off work we got further and further behind in our bills, we got married in June 06 And since we are financially struggling we've been having issues with our relationship, we fight and argue all the time and we just got married. I have been trying to get help but since we have no children no one is willing to help us. I just wish there is one person out there that is willing to help us out a little.
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